Choosing Growth Over Comfort

“Most people prefer the certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty.”
— Virginia Satir

This is one of my favorite quotes. I use it to check myself regularly! At first glance, this quote can feel heavy. But for dental practice teams, it’s also incredibly freeing, because it explains why so many practices stay stuck, and more importantly, how they can move forward.

In dentistry, the “certainty of misery” often doesn’t look dramatic. It’s subtle. It shows up as daily frustrations, unspoken resentment, inefficient systems, and the quiet belief that “this is just how it is.”

The Certainty of Misery in Dental Practices

In dental offices, certainty often looks like:

• Outdated workflows that everyone complains about but no one changes
• Team conflict that’s been normalized (“That’s just how she is”)
• Burnout masked as “being busy”
• Inconsistent training because change feels overwhelming
• Leadership avoidance, hoping problems resolve themselves

These situations are uncomfortable, but familiar. And familiarity feels safer than change.

Why Uncertainty Feels So Risky in Dentistry

Dentistry thrives on precision, predictability, and control. So when uncertainty shows up (new systems, new expectations, new accountability), it can feel threatening.

Common fears sound like:

• “What if this doesn’t work?”
• “What if my team pushes back?”
• “What if we invest time and still struggle?”
• “What if we uncover problems we’ve been avoiding?”

So instead of stepping into uncertainty, many teams stay exactly where they are—overworked, under-communicating, and underperforming.

The Hidden Cost of Staying Comfortable

Satir reminds us that real misery is often quiet. In dental practices, that subtle misery looks like:

• A team that shows up but isn’t engaged
• Doctors who feel isolated and unsupported
• Leaders who carry everything themselves
• Talented team members who never reach their potential
  
  

Nothing is “bad enough” to force change, but nothing is good enough to feel fulfilling. That’s the danger!

Growth Requires Discomfort. But It Also Creates Alignment

Satir believed that people already have the resources they need to grow. They just need the environment, structure, and self-worth to access them.

For dental teams, that means:

• Clear roles and expectations
• Standardized systems that reduce emotional decision-making
• Training that builds confidence instead of confusion
• Leadership that supports growth instead of avoiding conflict

When one part of the system changes, everything changes — exactly as Satir described in her systemic approach.

From Uncertainty to Stability (The Right Kind)

Ironically, avoiding change creates more instability over time: turnover, burnout, rework, and frustration.

True stability in a dental practice doesn’t come from avoiding uncertainty, it comes from:

• Documented systems
• Consistent onboarding
• Shared accountability
• A culture where growth is normal, not scary

When teams know what’s expected and feel supported, uncertainty turns into clarity.

The Question Every Dental Leader Should Ask

Instead of asking: “What if this change doesn’t work?” Try asking: “What is it costing us to stay exactly the same?”

Because the certainty of misery may feel safe, but it quietly robs teams of fulfillment, confidence, and growth.

Choosing the Courage to Grow

Dental practices don’t fail because they lack talent. They struggle because they tolerate systems that no longer serve them.

Growth always comes with uncertainty, but it also brings:

• Stronger teams
• Better communication
• Less stress
• More predictable outcomes

And most importantly, it replaces quiet misery with intentional progress. 

Change isn’t the risk. Staying stuck is.